Motherhood Misery #9: I Was Obsessed with Having a Clean House

Every mother has to have a cleaning standard if she wants an orderly home. For years, mine was truly absurd: “My house has to be clean all the time the way it would be clean for guests.” Needless to say this mindset made me miserable. My intentions were good. I really believed it would be…

Motherhood Misery #8: I Thought My Husband Had it Better

Few things spur resentment in the heart of a stay-at-home mother more than waving goodbye to a husband every morning. This was true of me. On my best days, I felt so blessed to have my man provide so that I could stay home. On my worst days, I felt trapped and jealous that he…

Motherhood Misery #7: I Devalued My Time & Talents

First of all, I mentioned earlier that I took a lot of criticism from my grandmother because she felt staying home with my children didn’t require the use of my mind. She meant well, but she was wrong. It takes brains to instill a conscience and a work ethic in children. Keeping house, paying bills,…

Motherhood Misery #6: I Thought Working Moms Had it Better

We humans have a grass-is-greener mind about many things. This played out in my head early in my mothering years when I assumed that my daily life at home with the kids was worse than the daily life of working moms. My thoughts went something like this: They get to dress up while I wear…

Motherhood Misery #5: I Didn’t Focus Enough on Myself

Mothers win the prize for sacrifice. Seriously. The degree to which moms forsake, forego, and forget our own needs and desires…it’s pretty admirable, but it’s also dangerous.  “Family first,” is a spiritual and appropriate thing, but only when it’s done right. How do you know when it’s done wrong? You’re  mostly miserable. It’s not motherhood…

Motherhood Misery#4: I was Insecure

Like any new mother, I had a normal amount of insecurity tied to duties I had never done before. It’s normal to feel clueless or scared as our children walk through various stages of growth. The wisdom needed for each season is always shifting. But the insecurity I’m talking about today has less to do…